Scenario: “I’ve been dreaming about having a daughter, but my ultrasound showed that our baby is a boy. I feel guilty even admitting it, but I’m disappointed. Am I a bad mom already?”
Some moms-to-be secretly wish for a girl, and then feel sad when that wish isn’t granted. ‘Gender disappointment’ is pretty common and so is a’ mom-to-be’ wanting a baby girl. In fact, women who express a gender preference for their baby tend to want daughters, while men say they hope for a son.
The most explainable reason for moms wanting a girl is that you already know how to take care of a girl because you were one yourself. And with all the huge changes coming your way like giving birth and figuring out how to be a parent, you’d always seek what’s familiar to you.
It’s okay to spend some time feeling bad about not having a baby girl, but then it’s time to start celebrating your beautiful baby boy. Some moms find that talking about their little guy’s name or buying him an adorable outfit or toy can help make him seem more real and more precious.
When disappointment hits you don’t dwell on it. Instead know that every baby comes with his/ her unique personality. You may have been picturing a ‘girly’ baby girl, but there’s no guarantee that your daughter would have loved princesses, ballet, and makeup. And the same goes for the boy you’re about to bear. Yes, he might be a rough-and-tumble kind of kid but then gain he might not. Maybe he’ll love art and music, or maybe he will adore all things automotive, and you’ll find yourself realizing that cars are actually pretty cool.
Note that if the cloud of gender disappointment doesn’t lift off in a few days or a week, you might need some help to work through it. Feeling sad and hopeless for more than just for a couple of minutes or once in a while is a sign of depression, which is also pretty common among pregnant mothers considering all the changes you’re going through.
Tell your partner, a friend, or your doctor what’s on your mind. Depression or not, simply sharing your feelings can change your mood.
Dwell on the thought that a baby is a blessing. Think of all the beautiful and wonderful moments you and your little boy will share. Your minutes of disappointment will vanish the moment you hold your little guy in your arms.
Information sourced by: http://www.whattoexpect.com