When two becomes three, life changes. Deciding to raise a family is probably one of the biggest decisions a married couple would make in their lives. It will not be an easy task, there will be plenty of things you’ll need to think about and plan ahead for. Here are a few tips that will help you.
Live a Little
Newlyweds should enjoy life to the fullest in the early years. From sleeping late on Sunday mornings to taking off on a world tour, indulging yourself now will leave you with fewer regrets after you have children. Plus, having fun and trying new things as a couple will bring you closer and get you working as a team, which will be essential once you’re parents.
Understand that becoming parents certainly means that you have to slow down but you should know that it is not the end of fun in life.
Hang Out With Some Kids
Being around children is a good idea for potential parents. And we’re not just talking about cuddling your sister’s sleeping infant for five minutes. As a couple try and baby sit for a family member or friend for a day or two, so that you can experience what it is really like to deal with kids.
Holding a baby to cuddle and taking care of a baby are two totally different things. This experience will help you realize the difference, and also show you if you, as a couple are ready for kids.
Create a Baby-Friendly Network
The more isolated a couple is the more difficult it’s going to be.
Most young couples with babies cannot imagine how they’d ever make it if their parents didn’t live nearby, or if we they didn’t have friends who are willing to help out with the baby. Having a good support system is essential as you deal with the day-to-day logistics of children and careers. It provides valuable moral support during those challenging infant years.
Before you try to get pregnant, you should evaluate your support system. Couples without friends or family living close by should think about creating a proper support system to avoid unnecessary hardships after the baby.
Grow Up & Be Mature
Get your careers established and build a home for you and your family before having kids. A good financial state in this day and age is essential to have a comfortable life. Once this is established you will have more time and happiness to share with your children rather than be stressed out about financial issues etc.
Agree on Your Parenting Plan
Before you have a child, the two of you should talk about discipline, religion, values and other issues that involve the daily realities of raising children. You can gather information by reading parenting books. Most importantly talk these issues out between yourselves. This way when you actually have to face difficult situations you will be better than ready.